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Jason Chastain's avatar

You poor bastards with left wing wives. πŸ€ͺ

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Deadbeat Zaddy's avatar

I didn't know it would be that bad...

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Jason Chastain's avatar

My wife is super conservative and so am I. So grateful I don’t have to tiptoe around stupid woke ideology. πŸ˜‚

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FFP's avatar

Get married and stick to it.

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Dutchmn007's avatar

He married an AWFUL: Affluent White Female Ultra-Leftist.

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Jason Chastain's avatar

Ooh! Good acronym.

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Arelia Casey's avatar

This was an interesting read overall. First, I’m really sorry that you had to experience that. I really hope we women heal and learn to be more kind to our men. I think a lot of women are so steadfast in victim mentality we forget that part of being equal is realizing that we are equally destructive and equally harmful. I’m not an escort, but my work can be similar, and I honestly pride myself in that. Men are able to come to me for that safe space, soft landing, and reminder of their value. Obviously not for cheapβ€¦πŸ˜‰

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Deadbeat Zaddy's avatar

I appreciate this a lot. What you’re pointing atβ€”the loss of male safe spaces and the unspoken cost of constant moral framing is real. Men still need places where they’re seen without being managed, corrected, or reduced to pathology. When that disappears, they look for it elsewhere. Naming that dynamic honestly is part of healing on both sides.

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Red Young's avatar

mans a survivor

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Deadbeat Zaddy's avatar

Appreciate it. Just documenting and rebuilding.

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Boflys's avatar

Well done. Interesting read.

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Deadbeat Zaddy's avatar

Thanks. More to come.

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Steven Scientia Potentia Est's avatar

Very interesting, thanks for posting. Thank God I am not in your position, but I know well that your situation can be a real thing, and its terrible. Personally I would never put up with that kind of manipulation and control from the get go.

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Deadbeat Zaddy's avatar

Thank you! For context, I’m already divorced. The blog is about rebuilding from the rupture, not staying inside it. Day 0 explains the frame: https://www.deadbeatzaddy.com/p/day-0-the-collapse-copy

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RDM's avatar

Glad you escaped, first in place, then for real!

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Nevermore's avatar

I'm sincerely sorry you were so unhappy in your marriage.

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Fran's avatar

It’s sounds like you are empty inside and every relationship is transactional. You even had to be told to feed your dog! I feel very sorry for you.

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Ibanez's avatar

Damn, I love AI articles, keep it coming man

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Somani's avatar

If you want some proper AI slop visit his total shit website.

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Deadbeat Zaddy's avatar

Zaddy loves all his readers!

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Somani's avatar

Considering Zaddy never left his mum's basement and has never been touched by a woman, that figures.

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Robert Taylor's avatar

I think there are two different markets when you're dating. You are not paying for sex, you are paying for the social status validation that comes from receiving intimate attention from a conventional, attractive woman without seeing a sex worker. This is a reason why most incels don't like sex workers, because what they are searching for is status validation, not sex. There is a reason men pay 6K at a nightclub to sit next to a pretty girl for an opportunity to date her for "free"" but would be uncomfortable seeing an escort for significant less than that.

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Crimson's avatar

It was the same instinct I had as a kid when my parents installed CyberNanny on my computer. They thought they’d locked me down. I disabled it and streamed porn anyway.

I’m angry we celebrate pornographers having access to teen boys, clearly the target market. Look how the customers end up.

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Gregory's avatar

The marriage problem is real, but you fell for the trap that your worth is measured by money.

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Jim West Commercial RE's avatar

Wasted 10 minutes .

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Liviu Dorobantu's avatar

Jesus Christ…

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John's avatar

Thanks ChatGPT

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Nicholas Giles Patrick Willson's avatar

What a Wimp!

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