This was an interesting read overall. First, I’m really sorry that you had to experience that. I really hope we women heal and learn to be more kind to our men. I think a lot of women are so steadfast in victim mentality we forget that part of being equal is realizing that we are equally destructive and equally harmful. I’m not an escort, but my work can be similar, and I honestly pride myself in that. Men are able to come to me for that safe space, soft landing, and reminder of their value. Obviously not for cheap…😉
I appreciate this a lot. What you’re pointing at—the loss of male safe spaces and the unspoken cost of constant moral framing is real. Men still need places where they’re seen without being managed, corrected, or reduced to pathology. When that disappears, they look for it elsewhere. Naming that dynamic honestly is part of healing on both sides.
Very interesting, thanks for posting. Thank God I am not in your position, but I know well that your situation can be a real thing, and its terrible. Personally I would never put up with that kind of manipulation and control from the get go.
I feel your pain and I’m sorry for what you experienced… “feminism” of that ilk is retarded and counterproductive. And, from the other side, I actually completely agree with you. The safest and most secure I’ve ever felt was with a client who offered me $4300 to spend three days with him. We didn’t have sex, just a great time together. He is wealthy, powerful, and unlike anyone I’ve actually dated in the real world. But, he has raised my standard and I understand what I have actually been looking for in a man all along: someone who was willing to see my value and claim it for himself, because he could. Of course, your ex and her friends want that, too… they just can’t admit it to themselves yet.
Man…all I can say is I am so sorry you married such a miserable cow. She is quite literally the epitome of toxic feminism, she she helped drive you to sexual addiction.
If you were a bit wiser you’d have left a long time ago and found someone worthy of your attention. But I’m not here to judge, people in highly abusive relationships like you’re describing rarely do what’s best for them, they find workarounds to stay in the toxicity while remaining sane. A broken, weak version of themselves, but sane.
I hope you can someday find what you’re really looking for.
Yeah, I didn’t know any better at the time. In hindsight, I can see plenty of red flags I either missed or rationalized away.
The difficult part is that when you believe leaving will trigger a nuclear fallout, you start finding unhealthy ways to tolerate staying. That’s essentially what I did.
Eventually I got caught, the explosion happened anyway, and the marriage ended. I’m divorced now, still a dad, and significantly happier on the other side.
Sometimes the catastrophe you spend years avoiding is the thing that finally sets you free.
It was the same instinct I had as a kid when my parents installed CyberNanny on my computer. They thought they’d locked me down. I disabled it and streamed porn anyway.
I’m angry we celebrate pornographers having access to teen boys, clearly the target market. Look how the customers end up.
This was just a public admission that you failed in selecting a mate and were so badly in tune with your own masculinity that the only way you could copulate was by paying for it. This is just sad...
Well, there is lots of competition to get an attractive woman. Women need this. The human species needs the best men-the winners. The bread winners. Etc.
Women don't want to sleep with losers. Unless they are losers themselves.
You poor bastards with left wing wives. 🤪
I didn't know it would be that bad...
My wife is super conservative and so am I. So grateful I don’t have to tiptoe around stupid woke ideology. 😂
Get married and stick to it.
Great mindset shift at the end
He married an AWFUL: Affluent White Female Ultra-Leftist.
Ooh! Good acronym.
This was an interesting read overall. First, I’m really sorry that you had to experience that. I really hope we women heal and learn to be more kind to our men. I think a lot of women are so steadfast in victim mentality we forget that part of being equal is realizing that we are equally destructive and equally harmful. I’m not an escort, but my work can be similar, and I honestly pride myself in that. Men are able to come to me for that safe space, soft landing, and reminder of their value. Obviously not for cheap…😉
I appreciate this a lot. What you’re pointing at—the loss of male safe spaces and the unspoken cost of constant moral framing is real. Men still need places where they’re seen without being managed, corrected, or reduced to pathology. When that disappears, they look for it elsewhere. Naming that dynamic honestly is part of healing on both sides.
Yes!! I write on this extensively here:
https://awakeningchandra.substack.com/p/the-crisis-of-sexual-consciousness?r=35xw8p&utm_medium=ios
Very interesting, thanks for posting. Thank God I am not in your position, but I know well that your situation can be a real thing, and its terrible. Personally I would never put up with that kind of manipulation and control from the get go.
Thank you! For context, I’m already divorced. The blog is about rebuilding from the rupture, not staying inside it. Day 0 explains the frame: https://www.deadbeatzaddy.com/p/day-0-the-collapse-copy
mans a survivor
Appreciate it. Just documenting and rebuilding.
Well done. Interesting read.
Thanks. More to come.
I feel your pain and I’m sorry for what you experienced… “feminism” of that ilk is retarded and counterproductive. And, from the other side, I actually completely agree with you. The safest and most secure I’ve ever felt was with a client who offered me $4300 to spend three days with him. We didn’t have sex, just a great time together. He is wealthy, powerful, and unlike anyone I’ve actually dated in the real world. But, he has raised my standard and I understand what I have actually been looking for in a man all along: someone who was willing to see my value and claim it for himself, because he could. Of course, your ex and her friends want that, too… they just can’t admit it to themselves yet.
Man…all I can say is I am so sorry you married such a miserable cow. She is quite literally the epitome of toxic feminism, she she helped drive you to sexual addiction.
If you were a bit wiser you’d have left a long time ago and found someone worthy of your attention. But I’m not here to judge, people in highly abusive relationships like you’re describing rarely do what’s best for them, they find workarounds to stay in the toxicity while remaining sane. A broken, weak version of themselves, but sane.
I hope you can someday find what you’re really looking for.
Yeah, I didn’t know any better at the time. In hindsight, I can see plenty of red flags I either missed or rationalized away.
The difficult part is that when you believe leaving will trigger a nuclear fallout, you start finding unhealthy ways to tolerate staying. That’s essentially what I did.
Eventually I got caught, the explosion happened anyway, and the marriage ended. I’m divorced now, still a dad, and significantly happier on the other side.
Sometimes the catastrophe you spend years avoiding is the thing that finally sets you free.
Lots of guys becoming ‘monger bro’s.
I was comparing both lifestyles in real time..
Glad you escaped, first in place, then for real!
I'm sincerely sorry you were so unhappy in your marriage.
It was the same instinct I had as a kid when my parents installed CyberNanny on my computer. They thought they’d locked me down. I disabled it and streamed porn anyway.
I’m angry we celebrate pornographers having access to teen boys, clearly the target market. Look how the customers end up.
It’s sounds like you are empty inside and every relationship is transactional. You even had to be told to feed your dog! I feel very sorry for you.
Damn, I love AI articles, keep it coming man
If you want some proper AI slop visit his total shit website.
Zaddy loves all his readers!
Considering Zaddy never left his mum's basement and has never been touched by a woman, that figures.
This was just a public admission that you failed in selecting a mate and were so badly in tune with your own masculinity that the only way you could copulate was by paying for it. This is just sad...
Well, there is lots of competition to get an attractive woman. Women need this. The human species needs the best men-the winners. The bread winners. Etc.
Women don't want to sleep with losers. Unless they are losers themselves.
Gross.