Eh this is what actual balance looks like - you aren’t in control and you hate it. That’s because everything up to actually giving up control is performative equality.
It’s a tough lesson to actually embrace. But everybody has to fight our culture's programming to prioritize personal autonomy / alpha behavior over everything in their own way.
You end this blog post with a claim nobody is leading when you’ve spent the rest of the article lamenting your wife’s leadership. Investigate that discrepancy with yourself.
It does sound like you needed more words of appreciation and recognition - which is totally fair or you start feel taken of advantage of. But there’s no need to spin a tale of taking back control to get this - you can just ask for it.
This isn’t about refusing to yield — it’s about refusing to be erased. Real partnership can only happen when both energies are fully expressed. What I experienced wasn’t shared leadership. It was silent servitude dressed up as growth. The exit wasn’t a tantrum — it was the first real act of leadership.
Eh this is what actual balance looks like - you aren’t in control and you hate it. That’s because everything up to actually giving up control is performative equality.
It’s a tough lesson to actually embrace. But everybody has to fight our culture's programming to prioritize personal autonomy / alpha behavior over everything in their own way.
You end this blog post with a claim nobody is leading when you’ve spent the rest of the article lamenting your wife’s leadership. Investigate that discrepancy with yourself.
It does sound like you needed more words of appreciation and recognition - which is totally fair or you start feel taken of advantage of. But there’s no need to spin a tale of taking back control to get this - you can just ask for it.
This isn’t about refusing to yield — it’s about refusing to be erased. Real partnership can only happen when both energies are fully expressed. What I experienced wasn’t shared leadership. It was silent servitude dressed up as growth. The exit wasn’t a tantrum — it was the first real act of leadership.