Day 45: The Lawyer
🧠 Post Mortem
I found a booth in the coffee shop attached to the lobby of my Airbnb apartment.
Sat down. Exhaled. Called Blackridge Family Law.
The last firm I contacted sent me some intake guy who collected my information, listened to the situation, and disappeared into the system afterward. No follow-up. No movement.
At that point, I wasn’t even sure what language to use anymore.
Wife. Ex-wife. Pending divorce. Technically married. Structurally over.
The distinctions were starting to blur.
A woman answered and introduced herself as the lead attorney, Claire Bennett.
I gave her the overview. Personal information. My wife. My daughter. Timeline. Living situation.
But unlike the others, she actually started pulling on threads.
I told her I cheated.
Strip clubs. Escorts.
She paused, then asked for specifics.
What exactly happened?
That caught me off guard.
I explained that most of it involved lap dances and oral.
She immediately shifted into legal analysis mode.
“Did you receive or give oral?” she asked.
I told her received.
Then she asked whether there had been full intercourse.
I said no.
“Under the law, that isn’t illegal.”
Hmmm.
I already liked this lawyer more than the others.
She told me she’d handled cases from both sides before. Then she started outlining strategy calmly, like she’d already run the simulation in her head.
No judgment. No theatrics.
Just positioning.
Eventually she got to the number.
$3000 for a Tier 1 retainer.
I leaned back for a second.
Well.
I guess this is how it works now.
I agreed.
She told me we’d wait for my wife to formally file before making any moves.
I felt a sense of relief after the call.
Not because the situation improved.
But because someone had finally stopped reacting emotionally to it and started coming up with the next steps.
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